Advice...To share or not to share?

   It seems like people only listen to stupid ideas and just let good advice go through one ear and out of the other. This advice could be coming from anyone...a mother, a friend, a boss, even a 4 year old. How do you know when it's time to take advice and stop doing your own thing? How do you know when your way is just a waste of time?

   I'm one of those good advice givers...at least I think I am. No one ever listens to me even when I know I'm right. I could say the sky is blue and somehow my statement would be considered wrong or just completely ignored. Now what do I do when that happens? Do I stop letting people know what I have to say or, continue repeating myself for people who either don't care enough to listen or are too stupid to listen to common sense and reason?

   My thoughts have gone unheard/disregarded all my life. Seriously not once in my 20 years of life have I given someone my good advice and they actually listen. For example freshman year me and one of my best friends, let's call her Rosie have a sleepover. That same night my brother comes to visit. Rosie and my brother are getting too close in my opinion. So I tell Rosie "don't do it...he's a bit of a player." she does it anyway. Eight months later another friend...we'll call her Nana meets my brother, once again my brother charmed his way to her heart. He broke up with Rosie started dating Nana and fast forward to now where he and Nana have a kid but aren't together. I warned both of them...nobody listened.

   I also have prime examples of when my stupid ideas get the most attention. Like when I was 15 and thought it would be a good idea to meet two guys at a hotel with Rosie, we went, got stuck in the rain until 2 am, had to call our moms and get yelled at the whole ride back home. What the hell was going through our tiny little minds. Looking back at it now I know it was a terrible idea because not only did our parents not know who we were with (here's the kicker) I MET THE GUYS ONLINE!!!! 
   Sometimes its not just advice it's anything you say, do, or ask. The only difference is when you ask a question you might hear a really sarcastic or condescending tone in the person's voice. I just asked a friend for advice about people not listening and she said "Stop trying to help. When someone realizes you were right you'll feel better". That has got to be the best advice I've ever heard. Not only was I listening but I am going to take it and run.

Until next time,

Jayne Doe

    

Surprise Saturday- Icebreaker Questions

   Surprise Saturday!! Here's a way to get to know me without revealing my actual identity. So read on if you're curious about me.

Q1. Are you named after anyone?

Kind of. My middle name is taken from my great-grandmother's name.

Q2. When was the last time you cried?

Probably last week...PMS is no joke!

Q3. If you were another person, would you be your friend?

I'm not really sure. Maybe if I was older as another person. I kind of have an old soul and people my age just don't get me.

Q4. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

Yes! however it's unintentional. My friends must have a thick skin.

Q5. Would you ever bungee-jump?

Absolutely not!

Q6. What's your favorite cereal?

Fruity Pebbles hands down.

Q7. Do you have kids?

Nope, but one day I want 3.

Q8. Whats the first thing people notice about you?

To be completely honest probably my boobs. It's unfortunate but true.

Q9. What's your eye color.

Super dark brown...almost black.

Q10. Have any favorite smells?

I recently just got into candles . I have two favorite candles one is pumpkin spice latte and the other is creamy vanilla swirl.

Q11. What's your favorite season?

Autumn. I love the leaves and layering.

Q12. Computer or Television?

Can I chose my phone instead? I can do everything on my phone!

Q13. Where were you born?

New Jersey. South Jersey to be a little more exact.

Q14. Do you have any hobbies?

I love to bake and DIY. I try to bake once a week. DIYing happens when I have some extra cash for new supplies.

Q15. Do you have any pets?

I have 3 turtles. Veronica, Alex, and Speedy.

Q16. Do you have any siblings?

Yes, I have a lot actually. I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters. My mom  only has two kids but my father and step-dad had their own before my younger sister and I.

Q17. What do you want to be when you grow up?

This is probably super cliche but I just want to be happy.

A thief in my house...

   I'm going to try to be as honest as I can in this post without giving myself away. I'm about to let you take a deeper look into my home life. This post is the reason I started this blog...so I could speak freely about those "closest" to me. By closest I don't mean people I love and care about. I'm talking about the people my family lets into our house, the people who could give two shits about respecting anyone or anything. These are the people responsible for making everyone uncomfortable 

   In late June or early July (of this year) my grandmother was on the phone a lot. She'd be yelling and crying. After about the hundredth phone call I decided to ask what was going on. She told me we'd be taking in a cousin's girlfriend and 3 kids who successfully came from Honduras. Already at this point I'm like I'm not sharing my room, I REFUSE. She told me we'd figure out the room thing which we did. So a few days go by and I get home from work and I see these cute but insanely dirty, smelly kids. I feel so bad for them and their mom. So I give the mom a lot of my own clothes, buy her clothes, and stuff for the kids. After that I just let them get settled about a week or two into them being there the mother started cleaning my room. I told her she did have to but she did anyway. She told me it was to say thanks. She cleaned my room every other day. for a while I didn't really notice anything different or missing from my room. So I just let her.

    After a while I did start noticing stuff going missing. She'd have them and I realized she wasn't cleaning my room to say thank you. She was scoping out my room to see what small things she could take. I'll say it took about a month and a half to see what all had went missing. In that month's time I came to trust her, lend her money, and consider her a friend. We did everything together. 

   I decided that I'd let it go. As long as I got the money I lent her back we'd be fine (still waiting on that jsyk). She's done some more sneaky shit to other people in my family but that's not my business to blog about. 

   At this point I don't trust her. I don't think I'll ever be able to. She still lives in my house for free. She still owes me and my family over $200. She isn't a good person and I can't wait until everyone realizes how she really is. Karma is a real thing and eventually she'll get her's. 

Until next time,

Jayne Doe